Workshop for Children: The Inner Journey for Kids Workshop
Does my child need to have an issue to attend this workshop?
No, not at all! Many children who attend this workshop don't have huge problems at all. However, when we consider the fact that even at the age of 5 years we already have lived many days, there is a significant chance that you may have experienced some things which cause you to have unhealthy believes about yourself. For example: the kids at school laugh at you because of the colour of your new coat. Children (and adults) can quickly draw conclusions. A child might think: "the clothes I wear aren't beautiful, they laughed at me. Perhaps I am not beautiful". The unhealthy belief starts here. A child might start looking for proof to believe this. In this way an innocent pattern can arise, which will influence the child unconsciously.
At the workshop "The Inner Journey for Kids" a child will find out what it believes and what has caused this believe to arise. At the workshop they are guided to let go of these believes.
Will my child suffer from other children's experiences? Will this affect him?
Over the years we have noticed that children do not suffer from other children's experiences. They listen to it, and think: "Oh I feel sorry for him/her" or "Hey, I experienced something like that" and they go on resolving their own issues.
At the workshop we will discuss life and things that have happened to us. Things only stick or hurt if we already carry this pain or a fear for it inside ourselves. If this arises in a workshop there is a great opportunity to address and solve it. Children love to hear other children talk about their feelings. It causes a sense of connection and understanding: "Oh, other children also have experienced things like me, I'm not the only one". Human beings resemble each other more than we would think at first sight. Children learn to look at each other based on compassion.
I would like my whole family to attend the workshop. Can they all join it at the same time?
After each group instruction the children will split up in sub-groups to talk, make a drawing about a memory or feeling, do role plays, etc.
Children from the same family are never in the same sub-group. The privacy of each child is guaranteed and the child is free to share experiences which are linked to other family members, without causing a conflict with them.
Friends can be in the same sub-group. We often notice that their connection is reinforced by this. We sometimes decide (as a result of information from parents) to separate two friends, so they both experience more space.
Why are parents not allowed to be present at the workshop?
Children are very loyal to their parents. When a child has experienced something painful and the parent was involved it is often very difficult to share this. A child will not want to hurt a parent at this workshop.
When the parents are present the child might hold back what really hurts and therefore cannot let go of the issue.
Question 5: My child is only 5 years old. I don't know if I can leave him on his own in this workshop. Perhaps he doesn't want me to leave him alone in this new setting.
Answer: If you feel that your child is resisting going to a workshop alone, it might be a good solution to bring a friend or brother/sister in the same age. If your child still doesn't want to go to the workshop, it might be advisable to do an individual session first. We often notice that it is difficult for the parent to leave his/her child behind too. Your child reacts on your feelings and therefore doesn't want to go. When this is the case we advise you to work on this issue yourself first. We sometimes advice to wait a bit longer and to attend the workshop at a later moment.
Question 6: I am very enthusiastic about the workshop, but my son/daughter doesn't feel the same. What should I do?
Answer: Some children find it difficult to be confronted with themselves. You cannot force a child, just like you cannot force your friends or partner to do something you want them to do. Children might feel it is your issue and not theirs. They might be right on this and best to do is to work on your own issues first. And sometimes you just have to be patient.
It also helps to show this website. The pictures on the website can give them an idea what the day is about. Some children just need a bit more information to feel safe.
Ask your child: Why don't you want to go?
Some children don't like the idea or prefer to play soccer or go to a friend's party. That might be a good choice as well. They might not (yet) be interested in self healing.
Question 7: How do I explain what they are going to do at the workshop?
Answer: You can read them the children's page. (link: therapies, children's page) Or show them the images on this website. Older children and teenagers can take a look at this website themselves. They might like to read the children's page, the reactions, testimonials and check if the workshop appeals to them. You can talk about healing and ask your child what has healed in their life.
You can also share your own experience with The Inner Journey process. Many children are curious to hear this.